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"Different is Good," the cover to a children's book by Phelan Good featuring a friendly horned purple monster.

Why We Need WNDB

Posted on November 17, 2023November 23, 2023 by Abigail Welborn

If you’re wondering why I’m campaigning for a charity that won’t benefit people equally, here’s your answer! Of course it’s still OK if you don’t agree, but I thought it was worth explaining.

Human beings are all predisposed to like people who are like them. Obviously we can and do overcome this predisposition all the time, but it’s extremely difficult for anyone to change their first reaction.

The example that I’ve used before was a re-org that happened at my tech job. It was an open secret that the organization’s structure would be changing, but they didn’t announce anything because they wanted to have the full org structure in place first. That might have been reasonable, except they ended up announcing a group of leaders that was 90% male. Mind you, the division only had 25% women in the first place, so I wouldn’t have expected more than 25% female leadership, but we got… 10%.

It’s not their fault that they came up with a chart that was 90% male at first. But they should have realized that they needed to go back and ask themselves hard questions about how they got there. This same company had previously lost a lawsuit because statistics showed that males disproportionately won the supposedly merit-based promotions, so they had no excuse for not being aware of the problem. Instead, they presented the chart to a 25% female room with a straight face and had no answer when I publicly asked (because of course I did) how they ended up so short of women.

The publishing industry in the US has always been majority white people. That’s only a problem when it’s a much higher percentage than the population, and even then, only because the books that get published disproportionately feature white characters written by white authors.

As just one startling example, in 2020, children’s books featured more animal or object main characters than non-white people. “The number of black, Asian or minority ethnic main characters in children’s books has increased to 5%, compared to 4% in 2018 and just 1% in 2017.” Five percent! And that was an improvement!

Agents and editors control the books that get published at major presses—which get most of the attention, shelf space, awards, etc. Like everyone, they naturally relate and gravitate to characters who are similar to them. Because art* is so subjective, it doesn’t feel intentional. After all, they turn down many white authors with white characters as well, for reasons of craft or “I just didn’t relate,” which are genuinely valid reasons for not buying or representing a book.

But then the books from minority authors get less publicity because of lower expectations and therefore aren’t easy to stumble across in libraries or bookstores. It’s a spiral of getting less attention, therefore selling less, therefore being viewed as less viable, therefore getting picked up less.

That’s why we need We Need Diverse Books.

Women had to literally take my company to court to get men to see (or admit) that their promotion program was flawed. The company also subsequently set up more programs to mentor early-career women to help the higher levels increase their proportion of women, because it was clear that without intentional intervention, they wouldn’t be able to overcome the inherent predisposition of the existing male leadership. That wasn’t giving women “special help,” they were giving women the same help that men were getting automatically because of the history of the company and profession.

WNDB offers mentorship, paid internships, advocacy, and information. They shed light on the inequities that don’t make sense. They provide the “extra” help as prospective authors, agents, and editors of color overcome the barriers to entry that white people don’t face because of the history of our country and the publishing industry.

I would bet that if the people making the decisions about my division’s re-org had been 25% female to begin with, they wouldn’t have ended up with the chart they did. Similarly, if we can get more people of color into all levels of publishing, the problem will more easily take care of itself. But they can’t unless we consciously try to get them there.

And that’s what WNDB does.

Donate to my fundraiser here!

*Jonathan Mayberry taught me that “writing is art, but publishing is the business of selling copies of art.”

What the world needs now

Posted on November 4, 2023November 23, 2023 by Abigail Welborn

Books are either windows or mirrors.

Characters in a book either reflect a reader’s life and personality, or they offer a window into a different mindset and experience. In fact, I would argue that all books are both, because no book is populated entirely by identical characters. Characters represent the reader to a certain extent and help the reader explore what isn’t the same.

Because readers literally share in the feelings of the point of view character, books are powerful tools for developing empathy in readers—a quality we desperately need more of in the world. However, two things need to happen for books to change the world.

First, books have to represent many different viewpoints. The best representation comes from authors who are writing about their own experiences—whether literally, in contemporary stories, or through the metaphor of speculative fiction. Obviously, since we don’t want books with entirely identical characters, every author also writes about people who differ from themselves in some way, but there’s no replacement for the authenticity of personal experience. All readers deserve to find books that reflect their lives.

Second, readers need access to those books after they get published. They need to be on shelves in stores, libraries, classrooms, book fairs. As an author who writes for teens, I care especially about books for kids. Books have to be easy for the kids who need mirrors to find them, and for kids to stumble upon them as windows. Of course not every book is for every reader—the point is to have them available.

In other words…

We Need Diverse Books is a charity that focuses on both those important steps. It supports authors from historically marginalized groups with grants, training, mentorships, and more. These authors face challenges getting traditionally published—that is, by the publishers that have the biggest presence in schools, libraries, and bookstores—or marketing their books from small, niche, or independent presses. WNDB also provides resources for authors and the public to combat book bans.

Donate Here!

For the last few years, I’ve been taking part in The Mighty Pens, a fundraiser that coincides with Nanowrimo. This year, we’re raising money for WNDB. If you donate through my page, you can help me win some cool author-related prizes, but more importantly, you’re helping to fill the world with stories of all kinds, for all people. And that’s love.

Why Maternal Health Matters to Me (#2)

Posted on November 21, 2020November 21, 2020 by Abigail Welborn

My second pregnancy was more challenging than the first, mainly because I already had a toddler! At 35 weeks, we learned baby was breech. I was a good candidate for a version, but he would not turn. (Also, the procedure is really painful.) So they scheduled me for a C-section.

But baby boy had other ideas! I went into labor a week after the attempted version, two weeks before my due date. Naturally, it was again late at night, and this time I hadn’t filled out any of the paperwork yet—plus they couldn’t reach my OB or the on-call doctor. My labor was progressing. Baby’s heart rate crashed once, and all of a sudden there were nurses calmly shouting codes that meant “get that oxygen over here, now!”  Fortunately, everything worked out. They did one more ultrasound to confirm baby was still breech, then walked me to the OR.

I knew I was in a fantastic hospital with experienced nurses, doctors, anesthesiologists, and specialists standing by, but getting up onto that operating table myself, knowing they were going to cut me open, is still one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. (I’ve had a low-trauma life, for which I’m grateful.)

He had quite a healthy cry but calmed down when we got to snuggle.

Now imagine you’re in labor and you know something’s wrong, but you don’t know why. Or you don’t have access to fetal heart rate monitors, portable ultrasound machines, or first0class operating rooms, so giving birth breech is a huge risk. Most births don’t require surgical intervention, but when it’s needed, it can be the difference between life and death. I want to improve every woman’s access to life-saving care. I hope you’ll join me in donating to Every Mother Counts!

grandpa holding baby
Proud Grandpa!
a picture of me and my newborn son

Why Birth Justice Matters to Me (#1)

Posted on October 31, 2020October 31, 2020 by Abigail Welborn

My parents watched anxiously from the waiting room at the end of the hall as a cadre of hospital staff in scrubs trooped into my labor and delivery room.

Inside the room it was less scary, but of course, I knew what was going on. The doctor had diagnosed that baby’s head was turned to the side, so his “progress through the birth canal was impeded.” In other words, he was stuck. After an hour of pushing, I needed intervention.

The doctor recommended a vacuum-assisted delivery. Pro: no C-section. Con: you get one contraction. One. Chance. My husband and I agreed that we should try, but we still had to wait for the operating room to clear—because if you don’t get the baby out, you need an emergency C-section!

Any time a birth requires medical intervention, a bunch of people come in the room just in case, hence the parade my parents witnessed. Happily, baby came out (I am so glad I had an epidural for that part) and was pronounced healthy, and I was holding him before I knew it!

Birth #1 successful!

My mom says that as the staff filed out again, one of them gave her a thumbs-up and said everything was fine. I suspect they can spot an anxious about-to-be-grandma when they see one!

Proud Granny

Now, let’s count the ways in which I was fortunate:

  • prenatal care at an OB/GYN clinic associated with a top-ranked hospital
  • advanced, dedicated maternity center
  • multiple ultrasounds before and during birth
  • birth classes and hospital tour ahead of time (familiarity)
  • private room with a bed that can be rolled straight to the O.R. if needed
  • NICU available
  • medical interventions available and reliable
  • great insurance

I want all women to have access to as many of those birthing privileges as possible. Every Mother Counts is an organization dedicated to increasing access to maternity care in America and around the world. In conjunction with NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) and the Mighty Pens, a group of writers, I’m raising money for EMC’s Birth Justice fund during the month of November. I know you might not be in a position to give (2020!), and that’s OK! I just wanted to share why the issue of birth justice is so important to me. But if you want to contribute to this great cause, I hope you’ll join me!

Anna from Disney's frozen being super excited

I have a mentor!

Posted on March 3, 2020March 3, 2020 by Abigail Welborn

What does that mean? Technically nothing, emotionally everything, and practically, somewhere in between. 

What do you mean, a mentor?

There are many writing contests run online, usually publicized through Twitter, where writers can win mentorship and/or editing from another author, an editors, or an industry pro. Mentors publicize what they’re interested in reading, what their editing style is, and what they look for in a mentee. Writers submit a query, first pages, sometimes a synopsis, and sometimes answers to questions about themselves/their book, choosing two to four mentors to read their entry. The process is very similar to querying agents, by design! Then each mentor picks one (or sometimes two) authors to help with polishing up their work to a diamond shine.

I saw some mentors that seemed perfect for my second novel, code-named Ballroom, so I entered. I got a request within four hours of submitting—which, to be honest, has a lot to do with luck of who’s reading submissions. Like agents, mentors are searching for a love connection with a story, and in these contests, additionally for a book they have ideas to improve.

Reader, I made a love connection.

https://twitter.com/catbakewell/status/1228057826892931073

Technically nothing

I mean, as far as career progress that the IRS would consider taxable, a mentor doesn’t count. Getting one means having another critique partner, a cheerleader, a guide, one who’s walked the path you hope to be on, but that’s it.

Emotionally everything

But “that’s it”? Oh, no, dear reader! Having someone who’s never met me and doesn’t know me pick my story out of their submissions and want to read more is the most validating experience an author can have. And then to have that mentor be so, so excited about so many of the things you love about your own story, well… that’s everything!

https://twitter.com/catbakewell/status/1234916465175863297

Practically, somewhere in between

I feel so loved and supported and uplifted. Sure, winning a contest doesn’t guarantee an agent or a book deal, but it guarantees having one more friend in my corner to encourage me, challenge me, and support my question. Cat, I can’t wait!!

Anna from Frozen being super excited
Me all day today

Abigail dressed up as Wonder Woman in her blue dress with sword.

Fun Facts About Abigail

Posted on September 25, 2019February 13, 2020 by Abigail Welborn

(You can find my official bio at About Me.)

I’m so extroverted it’s painful, according to my introverted husband.

I can’t remember when I didn’t want to be an author. I wrote my first story in Kindergarten, and I still have it (thanks, Mom!). It was about a princess, a dragon, and a knight, so… not much has changed.

Me dressed up for Halloween as Wonder Woman in the blue ballgown with the sword down the back of it.
#WWGotYourBack

Costumes I’ve worn in public: Jem, She-Ra, Wonder Woman (before everyone knew how cool she was), Princess Peach, Princess Buttercup, Agent Lucy Wilde (my son really wanted to be a Minion), Galadriel.

My writing ritual requires tea and I drink unhealthy quantities of it.

In fact, I carry teabags in my purse because you never know when you might be stuck without and need good tea.

My favorite Doctor is Ten (but Nine was my first, and you never forget your first).

Chocolate is life and you can’t persuade me otherwise. I’ve now trained myself to like dark chocolate, and the best chocolate bar I’ve ever tasted is Divine Chocolate Hazelnut Truffle. If you bribe me with that I will do almost anything for you.

My pinned Tweet has lots more fun facts about me from #PWPoePrompts. (For the usual facts, you can also check out my professional bio.)

My Manuscript

Here’s the song that inspired the work I submitted…

…and here’s an aesthetic for the two main characters, Robbie and Lara.

square two dancers

Deadlines and Anniversaries: I Finished (Again)!

Posted on October 2, 2018 by Abigail Welborn

Last month, the second anniversary of my transition to being a full-time writer passed without my noticing. Maybe the second anniversary is never as exciting as the first, but I also have an excuse: I was finishing my book!

I told myself I would finish in April. Then in May. Then in July or August. But I know the difference between a real deadline and a fake one, so I knew I had to create consequences. I decided that if I got to September and still hadn’t finished, I would cancel all my social engagements until I did! Unfortunately, I didn’t clarify to myself. What about weekends, when I have to come up with ways to entertain the kids? What about parties I’d already agreed to host or attend? It wasn’t a clear enough consequence.

BUT. I finished! This is version 4.5 since September 2016, when I sat down with a new abundance of time and nothing but an outline. Version 1 was in third person POV and reused a character from an older version as the love interest. Then in January of 2017, I fell out of love with him. For version 2, I chucked about 30,000 words and the love interest, scrambling to finish by the end of April (and the real deadline of my editor). In version 3, I switched to first person POV (on said editor’s advice). Version 4 rejiggered all the relationships, took some great feedback from several more amazing editors, ruthlessly chopped 9,000 words (and so many darlings) from the first half, and added 6,000 words to flesh out the end.

Reader, I am so proud of this version. Of course I can always continue to improve it, and I’ll have to, but it’s amazing to finally, finally be garnering interest from agents. (Very, very small nibbles, but even teeny tiny bits of affirmation can sustain an author for a long time!) When I get more feedback, I will continue to incorporate it, but… I’m done! I got to the end! I wrote, edited, polished, edited, and got all the way to “The End.”

Now… on to the query trenches.

rejection resized

When Reality Interferes With Your Goals

Posted on May 4, 2018 by Abigail Welborn

At the beginning of this year, I set for myself what I considered to be ambitious but achievable goals: accumulate 75 rejections and edit my second book. Of course, I wasn’t really after 75 rejections; I was hoping that I could find an agent who wanted my book before I hit that number. But querying 75 times was something I could control, so that was the official goal.

I didn’t exactly hit the ground running—I spent the first week of January laid up with the stomach flu. Ugh. Then, I wanted to wait for a response from the two agents from whom I’d won feedback during my Nanowrimo contest participation. If I’m really honest with myself, I wasn’t hoping for feedback. I was hoping for a stamp of approval, something along the lines of, “Yes, this book is ready. Go forth and query! In fact, query me!”

sad Winona Ryder from What I got was a lot of confusion and a very gentle, “You’re not quite there yet.” Oooof. Reality bites.

And yet, better to find out that way than by getting 75 rejections, right? Since an author can usually query an agent only once per story, I didn’t want to waste opportunities if the story wasn’t ready.

Fortunately, I also got some really good suggestions from a knowledgeable friend, who read my story not once but twice! With a little reluctance (how much longer is this process going to take??), but also a lot of motivation (I will work until I succeed!) and some direction, I embarked on yet another edit. I followed Susan Dennard’s amazing revision process, and spent way more time brainstorming than I had hoped to. I reconsidered nearly every aspect of the story, all the way from scratch, and landed not too far away from where I started.

Finishing the edits again took way longer than I wanted—I had hoped to be done by the end of March, and it was almost the end of April—but I was still able to submit to RevPit, an online mentorship contest run by a group of freelance editors. Though I wasn’t selected as a winner, I got unbelievably encouraging feedback from one of the editors. It was so incredibly validating (yes, I’m using all the adverbs today) to see that my deep, deep edits had indeed made the book better—even good enough that someone could be excited about it!

Of course, the feedback, while good, still means that I have another round of editing to do before I will really want to query this story. But I’m almost as happy as if I’d won the contest. When I’m editing by yourself day after day, I get to the point where I can’t tell anymore if I’m actually improving the story. Now I know that my efforts were indeed helping, and I’ll have a clear direction for where to go from here. Hopefully, making the story even better will mean I won’t have to go through 75 agents before I sign one.

But if I do, at least I still have the second book that I’m anxious to get back to!

Getting to know me

Posted on April 20, 2018April 21, 2018 by Abigail Welborn

Facts about me

  • I can’t remember when I didn’t want to be an author. I wrote my first story in Kindergarten, and I still have it (thanks, Mom!). It was about a princess, a dragon, and a knight, so… not much has changed.
  • pimpmybioI graduated from the University of Michigan. (Go Blue!)
  • My favorite Doctor is Ten (with Rose Tyler, as it should be—FIGHT ME), but Nine was my first, and you never forget your first Doctor.
  • I love ballroom dancing (that’s how I met my husband! See pic at right).
  • I have two boys. The oldest just started Kindergarten and the youngest just finished potty training (cue the choir of angels!).
  • Costumes I’ve worn in public: Jem, She-Ra, Wonder Woman (before everyone knew how cool she was), Princess Peach, Princess Buttercup, Agent Lucy Wilde (my son really wanted to be a Minion), Galadriel
  • I carry teabags in my purse because you never know when you might want good tea, like airplanes that carry only Lipton, fancy dinners that don’t have decaffeinated black tea for drinking with dessert—you know, the usual. My writing ritual requires tea and I drink unhealthy quantities of it.
  • If I could be anywhere right now, it would be on a tropical beach with a drink that has a little umbrella in it.
  • Chocolate is life and you can’t persuade me otherwise. I’ve now trained myself to like dark chocolate, and the best chocolate bar I’ve ever tasted is Divine Chocolate Hazelnut Truffle. If you bribe me with that I will do almost anything for you.
  • I’m a Ravenpuff. When asked whether I’d rather be right or kind, the former wins but the latter is what I try to do.
  • When I have to choose a favorite book, it’s always The Blue Sword, by Robin McKinley. (Corlath! *swoon*)

About My WIP

An ugly alchemist makes a magic mirror, only to discover that beauty doesn’t fix her problems and magic always has a price. In the tradition of Wicked and The Forbidden Wish, my YA fantasy novel The Alchemist’s Mirror brings to life the backstory of Snow White’s stepmother in a 14th century that never was.

New Year’s Goals

Posted on January 1, 2018 by Abigail Welborn

I ended 2017 by getting the stomach flu and eating nothing but 7-Up and white bread for three days, so we have nowhere to go from here but up!

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My 2018 writing goals are pretty simple:

  • Accrue 75 rejections for Alchemist’s Mirror
  • Finish two revision passes on my 2017 NaNoWriMo novel

Of course, if I find an agent before I get to 75 rejections, so much the better! But general wisdom says you haven’t given your novel a real effort until you’ve queries at least 75 agents. General wisdom also says that the best thing to do while you’re in the “query trenches” is write the next book! (And, of course, keep improving the work you’re querying if you get actionable feedback.)

In fact, I’ve already secured my first rejection! Technically, it arrived Dec. 29, 2017, but it arrived after I made the goal, so I say it counts. It was a very nice, personalized rejection that complimented my talent—so while it didn’t have actionable feedback, that might just mean I’m on the right track. Here’s to your success in 2018, however you define it!

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